F*ck Feelings: Less Obsessing, More Living
Heartbroken? Horrible boss? Confidence crisis? Rubenesque body? Anxious? Lonely?The solution is to find out what’s bothering you and change it, right?Sorry lady. WRONG.You aren’t going to suddenly start loving yourself. You aren’t going to just become the Best Version of Yourself. You can’t stop your dad drinking, or your rubbish boyfriend from breaking up with you.Fact is, there are some things you just can’t change, and will become miserable trying.Instead, Harvard-educated psychiatrist of 30 years Michael Bennett and his comedian daughter, Sarah, show you how to:• Stop overthinking• Make smarter decisions so you can manage whatever life throws at you• Stick to your values when good luck is nowhere to be found• Come away from bad situations with your self-respect and sanity intactThey may not promise lifelong happiness, but they do guarantee strength, pride, and a sense of humour.
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For the previous generation, Claire and Dr. Jacob Bleiberg, and Beatrice and Jacob Bennett. Tough lives couldn’t stop them from sticking to their values and working hard so that our lives could be so much easier.
And for friend, mentor, and legendary mensch Dr. Ted Nadelson, who taught us that the best way to help people accept what’s tough about life is to make them laugh.
There’s no “should” or “should not” when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.
—Fred Rogers,The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember
Contents
Introduction: What’s Your Goal?
Chapter One Fuck Self-Improvement
Taking Back the Reins of Your Life (After a Stampede)
Getting to the Root of Your Problem . . . and Tearing It Out
Becoming a More Positive Person
Unleashing the Power of Persuasion
Overcoming the Stigma of Disability
Defending Your Right to Live in Safety
Getting Closure After Childhood Abuse
Getting Justice and/or Closure
Protecting Victims of Injustice
Accepting the Inescapably Annoying
Chapter Seven Fuck Communication
Stopping Constant Parent/Child Conflict
Living with a Learning Disability
Rebuilding Divorce-Damaged Parenting
Fucked by Your Nearest and Dearest Asshole
Rising Up from an Asshole Takedown
Saving Assholes from Their Shit
Living and Working with Inescapable Assholes
Bonus Chapter Ten Fuck Treatment
Getting Your Fill of Treatment
Most people read self-help books, or come to see shrinks, because they can’t solve their problems after trying very, very hard to do it themselves. This is true whether they feel depressed, anxious, ill-treated, burdened with self-destructive behaviors, hurt by an unhappy relationship, too fat, too thin; you name it. They come expecting advice or treatment that will reduce symptoms, ease painful feelings, strengthen self-control, or mend broken relationships. Basically, they want a cure. These expectations are stoked by the public faces of therapy, particularly those telegenic, first-name-basis self-help gurus like Drs. Phil, Drew, Laura, Nick, etc.
