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To my mother, Kushma.
To my father, Hari.
To my sister, Nirvana, and brother, Ravi.
And especially to my daughter, Maya.
To Saraswati, the goddess of learning, art and wisdom.
I am deeply grateful to all who provided the magic that made writing this book possible:
The clients and patients who have brought me so much insight and inspiration, and that little clinic in Moorgate where I first discovered the ‘click’ of doing the work I knew I was born to do.
All the people who have guided, supported and enabled me to bring the words through.
Sandy Draper, my editing doula – thank you for getting ‘it’ and me – and Carolyn Thorne at HarperCollins for her patience and belief in my message.
The special friends who understood my journey and have always supported just at the right time – Gosia Gorna, Nikola King, Luisa and Peter Diana-Kuramapu, Melanie Langer, Kerry-Lyn Stanton-Downes and Carolyn Kolasinski.
Lisa Lewisohn for her patience in putting up with the writing-induced mood swings.
And last but never least my daughter, Maya, for her great patience when I kept disappearing off to the shed to write.
‘The unexamined life is not worth living.’
Plato
Last night I did something that I haven’t been able to do for decades. I slept without my fan on.
It was 5 November, Bonfire Night, and the air crackled with light and colour. I could smell bonfires and hear distant sirens. Lying in bed I wondered if I’d be able to sleep and then I remembered that I hadn’t turned on my fan. I have slept with a fan for many years – it acts as a buffer against the intrusion of noises out there and my own thoughts in here – but last night I decided I no longer needed it.
I slept deeply until morning, without any props.
I am called a sleep and energy expert. I’ve gained this reputation because I have a knack for solving people’s sleep problems and I love doing this. But even more than this, I love helping people to live their lives with energy and meaning. I make no secret of the fact that my work stems from overcoming my own challenges with insomnia, but over the years I have learnt to sleep deeply and restoratively. And why? Because I have learnt how to deal with life head on.