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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Names: Gordon, Jon, 1971– author.
Title: The power of positive leadership: how and why positive leaders
transform teams and organizations and change the world / Jon Gordon.
Description: Hoboken: Wiley, 2017. | Includes bibliographical references and
index. |
Identifiers: LCCN 2017008997 (print) | LCCN 2017034146 (ebook) |
ISBN 9781119352037 (ePDF) | ISBN 9781119351702 (epub) |
ISBN 9781119351979 (hardback)
Subjects: LCSH: Leadership. | Employee motivation. | Organizational change. |
BISAC: BUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Leadership. | BUSINESS & ECONOMICS /
Motivational. | BUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Management.
Classification: LCC HD57.7 (ebook) | LCC HD57.7 .G66674 2017 (print) |
DDC 658.4/092–dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017008997
CHAPTER 1
FROM NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE
Being positive doesn't just make you better; it makes everyone around you better.
I'm not naturally a positive person. People think I am because of my books and talks, but the truth is that I have to work hard to be positive. It doesn't come naturally to me. In fact, I find it ironic that I would write a book like this – and that my life's work centers on the importance of positivity. It's true that we teach what we need to learn. I know that my quest to become a more positive person and better leader has made me a better teacher.
I grew up in Long Island, New York, in a Jewish-Italian family; with a lot of food and a lot of guilt; a lot of wine and a lot of whining. My parents were very loving but they were not the most positive people in the world. My dad was a New York City police officer who worked in undercover narcotics. He fought crime every day and wasn't a big fan of positivity. I remember waking up in the morning and saying, “Good morning, Dad.” He would say in his thick New York accent, “What's so good about it?” My dad was Al Bundy before Al Bundy was Al Bundy.
By the age of 31, I was a fearful, negative, stressed-out, and miserable husband and father to two young children. My wife had had enough. She gave me an ultimatum: Change or our marriage was over. I knew she was right that I needed to change. I knew that I was allowing the stress of life and the fear of not being able to provide for my family to get the best of me. I told my wife I would change and began researching ways I could be more positive. At the time, positive psychology was an emerging field, and I read everything I could about it. I began to practice positivity and write about the things I was doing. I met Ken Blanchard, who became my role model. I began taking “thank you” walks to practice gratitude, enjoy the outdoors, and feel grateful instead of stressed. This was a life-changing practice that not only energized me physically, emotionally, and spiritually, but also provided time for many profound insights and ideas to come to me.
