Psychologists have noticed long ago that at the age of 6—10 years, children want to imitate their parents. Children are ready to communicate, learn skills and cooperate
At this age, it is important for children to follow established rituals and habits. It is also important for children that their parents have determined limits to regulate their desires and impulses. Children need rituals and clear rules.
Without rules supervised by parents, children learn negative habits, start back talking, react aggressively to requests.
For education to be successful, it must be organized.
Proper organization allows children to feel safe, self-confident, to feel confidence in others, which is very important for development.
Parents, when they engage in the education of a child as a team, create order. Thanks to this order, children feel calm and always know what they are allowed to do, when and how.
Establishing rules helps to organize the activities of the child, to obtain the freedom of action. Rules give the child this freedom.
If rules are missing or unclear, the child does not know how to behave. He/she can only guess.
The child, being aware of clear and understandable rules, feels respected and accepted by the adults who make the rules. Rules help to build trust between parents and the child.
Children like to follow rules, children often criticize parents for not complying with the rules. And kids are right in doing so.
It is important to understand the difference between commands and rules. The rule is a clear, predetermined order that should be always followed by everybody. The command is given by a superior to an inferior.
Rules are clear principles which are followed always and everywhere. A coercion or a command are not rules.
Therefore, prohibitions work only if they are accompanied by rules.