He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Why didn’t he call you back? Why doesn’t he talk to your friends? Why does he keep putting off your dates? Now available as an ebook for the first time, He’s Just Not That Into You has the answers. Now the international bestseller is re-released to change the lives of a new generation.This is a hilarious, playful, honest explanation of male behaviour from a writer and a consultant of Sex and the City. Stop wasting your time chasing after men who aren't into you, and find men who are! Greg Behrendt provides the insight you need to move on and find them.The idea behind ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ came from a conversation between Greg Behrendt and his fellow (female) SATC writers, when they asked his advice one day. This conversation became the seed of an episode which struck a powerful chord with viewers. Before long, Greg became aware that this simple phrase had the power to change women’s lives.‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ is now a worldwide phenomenon. Over 100k copies have been sold across all editions, it has topped bestseller charts internationally, and has been made into a major Hollywood film. Now repackaged for a new generation with an eyecatching new cover, He’s Just Not That Into You is essential armour for the modern woman.
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He’s Just Not That Into You
The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
This book is dedicated to all the lovely ladies out there whose stories inspired us to write this book. May we never need to write another one.
The stories you will read in this book are illustrative examples, not based on specific events or people. No matter what anyone might think, they are not transparent attempts to publicly mock our friends, enemies, or exes.
(However, we’re not going to say the thought didn’t cross our minds.)
—Greg and Liz
Table of Contents
You Are All Dating the Same Guy
1 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out
2 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling You
3 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Dating You
4 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Having Sex With You
5 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex With Someone Else
6 He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He’s Drunk
7 He’s Just Not That Into You If He Doesn’s Want to Marry You
8 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Breaking Up With You
9 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Disappeared On You
10 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Married (And Other Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)
11 He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak
12 Don’t Listen to These Stories
17 Life After He’s Just Not That Into You
The publishers of He’s Just Not That Into You asked us if we wanted to write another chapter or add anything to the book for future editions. My response was, “Are you kidding me? It’s perfect.” But then I reconsidered my position. Do I have more to say on the subject? Not really. I feel we pretty much covered it. But the point of view I hadn’t considered was what it’s like to be a woman living in the post–He’s Just Not That Into You world.
Hmmm…I pondered who could possibly have thoughts on this subject. I couldn’t think of anyone, so I took a nap. Then Liz called. Surprisingly, as a single woman living in New York City, she felt she had some information she wanted to share. Thus was born the first of the two bonus chapters at the end of this edition.
Also, since the publication of He’s Just Not That Into You I’ve been asked a million questions. Everything from “Did you think the book would be such a success?” to “Who the fuck do you think you are?” (The latter from a fairly upset marine who maybe wasn’t as into his lady as he should have been. Sorry, man.)
As to the first question, the answer is a resounding no! It’s not that I didn’t think it was a good idea; it’s that I didn’t have any idea there would be such a need. My goal was just to write a book so that I could tell my friends, “Hey, I wrote that pink-and-green relationship book at Urban Outfitters.” Just kidding! You have to understand that both Liz and my wife, Amiira, had to convince me that such a book should be written. It’s not like I woke up one day and said, “I need to wake women up to what’s going on in their relationships, and then I’m going to the gym.” I really had no idea that women were spending so much time obsessing over men. And I don’t mean that in a negative way—I just didn’t know. And I was sort of dumbstruck that a book like this hadn’t been written before. That’s why Amiira and Liz were so emphatic that I do it, because they knew a book like this did not exist.
But after our appearance on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Liz and I suddenly became “relationship experts,” which is hilarious to me, because if you ever dated me you would not believe me to be an expert on anything. We were asked to comment on all things dating, from celebrity dating to the mating rituals of dogs (they are quite similar, actually). Needless to say, I was overwhelmed by the response to the book. My website crashed three times due to the amount of traffic—mostly by women with questions they didn’t feel were addressed in the book, though I tended to disagree. (Maybe we didn’t use his name, but he’s in there!) Sometimes I would write back things like “Hey, you’ve just written a ten-page e-mail about your relationship to a comedian. How do you think it’s going?” But then I would give my assessment. I also got quite a few e-mails from men, and not just the “If I ever see you in a dark alley, you are going down like a sack of lead potatoes” kind, but the “I like this girl but she never returns my calls” kind.
There were some questions that kept coming up over and over again—some from people who had loved the book, and some from people who were really not members of the Liz and Greg fan club. The truth is, I loved the questions. We loved it. One person asked if it bothers me that people now come up to me in public and ask me questions about their relationships. And the answer is “Never!” Not even the time I stood shirtless in the dressing room of a fancy department store and explained to the pretty salesgirl that if he doesn’t want to marry her because she doesn’t speak German, then he’s just not…well, you know the rest.
