The Little Book of Flirting
Acclaimed flirting expert Peta Heskell’s mini-guide to charming your way to love, friendship and success. A bite-sized guide to powerful communication.Peta Haskell has got flirting down to a fine art – one that can be used not just in romantic relationships but in every relationship (with teachers, neighbours, clients and colleagues) to make communication more fun. Peta insists that the key to successful socializing is being able to be yourself. This funky little guide is packed with tips, quotes and cheeky line drawings that will help to make you a great flirt too.Contents:• Are you a bit of a flirt already?• Beginning on the inside, with yourself!• Sharpening up your senses• Friendly flirting• Sexual flirting• Social events – giving out the glow• Creating instant rapport• The 6 don'ts of flirting
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First published by Element 2002
Copyright © Peta Heskell 2002
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To everyone who has the courage to leap into life’s
adventure and go for it.
A mega thanks to all my clients, participants of the
playshops and friends who made it possible for me
to do my work and spread a little sunshine in the
world. Keep shining.
CONTENTS
Are you a bit of a flirt already?
Beginning on the inside, with yourself!
What do we mean by ‘flirting’ anyway?
Let’s begin by redefining the word ‘flirting’. Remember, if we didn’t redefine things as we went along we’d all still be hunting for our meat and living in caves. Flirting comes from the old French word fleurter, meaning ‘to flower’. Here are a few modern definitions from participants in my flirting classes:
1 Flirting is about fun, connecting with and getting to know people.
2 Flirting is a way of showing people you are interested in them.
3 Flirting is about giving compliments, smiling and making people happy.
4 Flirting is like a butterfly that flutters past in all its beauty, and when we try to catch it, it flies away leaving us wanting more …
5 Flirting is making yourself so attractive that people can’t resist you.
6 Flirting is being able to break down people’s barriers and make contact.
7 Flirting is a harmless entertaining diversion that you can choose to take further if you wish.
Here’s a mnemonic that sums up flirting for me:
Feeling good about yourself.
Liking other people.
Interest in others makes YOU interesting.
Rapport and resonance.
Talking their language.
Initiating conversation.
‘No’ means move on to the next. No, next, no, next! Bingo! Yes!
Giving great voice and loosening up your body.
Flirting isn’t just restricted to interaction with the opposite sex. It’s also useful in social and work situations. Your style of flirting can range from simply social to strongly sexual. Great flirting, when done appropriately and with a friendly go-for-it attitude, is the gateway to more romance, deeper friendships, enhanced professional relationships and a definite feel-good sensation for you and people you flirt with.
Flirting is feeling great about yourself and resonating this to the world so that the right people are drawn to you – irresistibly!
The best flirts do it with everyone!
This book is about how to be the kind of person who can flirt with anyone they choose! My friend Lesley is like that. She ran a business for 25 years, flirting with everyone. To this day she flirts with elderly people, children, babies, men and women. She flirts saucily with men she fancies and kindly with men she doesn’t. She enjoys a joke and she can be really raunchy and very gentle. At the age of 49 she still has men chasing after her and she’s been happily married for 26 years. Women consult her about their relationships and parents allow her to ‘adopt’ their children. There’ll be standing room only at her funeral!
Becoming a flirt…
In this little book you will learn how to master the art of flirting. It contains everything you need to know to make yourself completely and utterly irresistible!
Great flirts love who they are and what they do. This book will help you discover how wonderful you are and encourage you to live your life from this position. It is about meeting yourself, falling in love with yourself and learning to interact with the world from that basis.
Think of this book as a guide, motivator and instigator of fun as you flirt your way through life.
Remember though, books don’t jump out and change you overnight while you sleep. They offer you ways of thinking and acting that can help you to change yourself for the better. But you have to choose to do the work to make it happen!
