The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping our children thrive when the world overwhelms them
15-20% of children are Highly Sensitive – and they are often labelled shy, introverted, fussy or faddy. The real story is very different though and this intelligent, practical book helps parents know what to do, when to back off, and how to ensure their child is given the right sort of treatment at school.This book is the follow up to the author’s internationally best-selling personal development guide The Highly Sensitive Person.It is the first and only book for parents of highly sensitive children.It provides parents with insights and information so they can understand High Sensitivity, and help their highly sensitive child thrive in the world.It is important for these children to be understood so they can be helped to avoid the common traps of shyness and withdrawal that many highly sensitive fall into as they develop.Contains questionnaire for parents to find out if their child has the traits common in highly sensitive children.Discusses HSC’s at different ages – infant, toddler, school-age and adolescent.…
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the highly sensitive child
Helping Our Children Thrive
When the World
Overwhelms Them
ELAINE N. ARON, PH.D.
Thorsons
An Imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers 1 London Bridge Street London SE1 9GF
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First published in the USA in 2002 by Broadway Books,
a division of Random House, Inc.
This edition published in 2003 by Thorsons
© 2002 Elaine N. Aron
Elaine N. Aron asserts the moral right to be
identified as the author of this work
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from the British Library
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To sensitive children everywhere,
and to those who gently raise them so that they grow up to be secure in a difficult world
Contents
Is Your Child Highly Sensitive: A Parent’s Questionnaire
PART I: AN OVERVIEW OF THE SENSITIVE CHILD
PART II: FROM INFANCY TO YOUNG ADULTHOOD
If you are reading these words, there is something about your child that makes you think he or she is highly sensitive. To best understand what that means, read over the checklist on pages xvii–xviii. If many of these statements apply to your child, read on … and welcome.
Almost everyone knows that even at birth children have their own personalities. “She always knew what she wanted, even as a baby, and she was going to have it or else.” “He was always good-natured. Feed him or not, change him or not—it hardly mattered.” Like every other child, yours has inherited her own unique combination of innate temperament traits. Yet each trait taken by itself is probably not unique, but is typical of a group of children, and so it can be easily described. “Strong-willed.” “Good-natured.” And so forth.
One such common inherited trait is high sensitivity, found in about 15 to 20 percent of children (the percentage is the same in boys and girls). Some infants seem fairly oblivious to whatever you feed them and whatever the temperature of the room may be; it does not matter to them if the stereo is on loud or the lights are bright. But highly sensitive infants seem to notice every slightly new taste, every change in temperature; they startle at loud noises and cry when a bright light is in their eyes. When they are older, they are often emotionally sensitive, too. They cry easily when their feelings are hurt, they worry more, and they can be so happy they “can’t bear it.” They also reflect before they act, so that they often come across as shy or afraid when they are merely observing. When they grow older still, they are often remarkable for their kindness and conscientiousness; they are upset by injustice, cruelty, or irresponsibility.
Even though it is possible to say a great deal about highly sensitive children (HSCs), no description will fit every child perfectly because, again, each HSC is unique, thanks to a unique combination of inherited traits plus different upbringings and school experiences. Your HSC may be outgoing or prefer to play alone, persistent or easily distracted, bossy and demanding or so adaptable he’s “almost too good.” But there is still a common thread of sensitivity you can recognize.
